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MSN news citing various sources reported India as number one on the list of countries that spend the most on weddings. Further stating, “The price tag really depends on how extravagant the celebration turns out to be. From opulent venues to multiday festivities, costs can climb quickly. There’s often an unspoken pressure to match or outdo other weddings in the family or community, or simply to meet the expectations set by tradition and society. All that splendor and glamor costs about $37,191”(equivalent to R706 629 according to this current day rates).
Reflection
Indian Muslims who moved to South Africa have opposed Rasulullah Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa Sallam to follow their forefathers in this total futility. However the weddings of Muslim communities in South Africa even go into the millions when all the costs are put together.
The events prior to the actual Nikaah include the engagement party ceremony. News 24 shared an article titled, The low-down on Muslim weddings: Part 1 stating,
We beg the question what is Islamic in this? Are we just following paganly?
Followed up functions and celebrations in between to the few months or even few years later, the famous “mehndi night“. This Hindu filled night usually occurs after the customary Thursday Khatam night which is for so called “blessings”. So hold on, one night “blessings” and the very next night in the name of Mehndi, straight out Hindu customs? We have not even reached the actual wedding reception which usually occurs on a Saturday!
What has caused us to fall in this total deviation where we proud to follow our enemies while the Hinduvta crew continue to oppress our Muslimeen in India?
These pagan functions have become so common amongst Hindu-attracted Muslims that websites recognise this as Islam whereas we need to let them know, there are Muslims who are not happy with only Islam then idolise the Kuffaar bollywood stars just because they got Muslim names.
Just look at this:
As we witness our Muslimeen in South Africa follow Hindus on mehndhi nights, christians with the red carpets and music blasting whilst the bride and her entourage walk down the aisle –
If we imitate them then we are from them
وَعَنِ اِبْنِ عُمَرَ -رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا- قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ - صلى الله عليه وسلم -{ مَنْ تَشَبَّهَ بِقَوْمٍ, فَهُوَ مِنْهُمْ } أَخْرَجَهُ أَبُو دَاوُدَ, وَصَحَّحَهُ اِبْنُ حِبَّانَ.
Abdullah Ibn ’Umar Radhiyallahu ‘Anhu narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“He who imitates any people (in their actions) is considered to be one of them.”
Related by Abu Dawud and Ibn Hibban graded it as Sahih
We do not like the truth but we need to stop these pagan customs. Then to end it off with a nice Walima with all Haraam festivities in an attempted justification to say Walimah is Sunnah. Yes Walimah is Sunnah but the Sunnah must be upheld during the Walimah too.
According the narration of Abu Dawood (2117),Rasulullah Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa Sallam said:
” خَيْرُ النِّكَاحِ أَيْسَرُهُ ”
The best marriage is the one that is most easy
The narration found in Mishkaatul Masaabih sourced originally from Baihaqi,
وَعَن عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ: قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «إِنَّ أَعْظَمَ النِّكَاحِ بَرَكَةً أَيْسَرُهُ مُؤْنَةً»
. رَوَاهُمَا الْبَيْهَقِيّ فِي شعب الْإِيمَان
“The marriage which produces most blessing is that which involves least burden.”
So that cuts out all the unnecessary burdens. The Deen is simple. The Deen is pure from all the kufr functions!
Further reflect deeply on this Hadith of Sahih al-Bukhari 5159: and specifically focus on the highlighted:
Sayyiduna Anas Radhiyallahu ‘anhu mentions:
The Prophet (ﷺ) stayed for three days at a place between Khaibar and Medina, and there he consummated his marriage with Safiyya bint Huyay. I invited the Muslims to a walimah which included neither meat nor bread. The Prophet (ﷺ) ordered for the leather dining sheets to be spread, and then dates, dried yogurt and butter were provided over it, and that was the Walima (banquet) of the Prophet. The Muslims asked whether Safiyya would be considered as his wife or as a slave girl of what his right hands possessed. Then they said, “If the Prophet (ﷺ) screens her from the people, then she Is the Prophet’s wife but if he does not screen her, then she is a slave girl.” So when the Prophet (ﷺ) proceeded, he made a place for her (on the camel) behind him and screened her from people.
When Ulama Ikraam do not want attend these kufr functions then how can we blame and accuse them of breaking family ties? They are supposed to guide the Ummah. Their actions supposed to be in line with the Shariah because firstly, Allah Ta’alaa says:
اِنَّمَا یَخْشَى اللّٰهَ مِنْ عِبَادِهِ الْعُلَمٰٓؤُا
Only those of His slaves fear Allah who are Ulamaa
Surah Faatir (35), Verse 28
Secondly people looking for to sanction their kufr and extravaganzas will say, “but there was Ulama there”?
